Who am I, and a bit of back story

If you have stumbled across this blog, then you are probably wondering who I am. I am a Mistress to a devoted footslave. . I created this blog to write about my experiences with my slave and the feelings I have, and sometimes even the personal growth that I am experiencing. This blog is my reflections, and my private release of my struggles in this life I lead.

Yes I know its complicated, so I am going to give you some backround info on me.

I have always been interested in the D/s lifestyle, but when I got married some years ago I put it aside, as my husband was not interested in participating at all. We had children, and I started falling out of love with him. We fight constantly, we are now just two people living together for the sake of our children. We both decided to open our marriage, and I promise it wasn't for the right reasons. It was like putting a band aid on a gunshot wound. Eventually things will have to come to an end.

I finally met someone who was into the D/s lifestyle, and it was great having someone who understood what I was missing in my life. He gave me several great experiences as a sub, but quickly switched on me, and I found myself being in the uncomfortable position of being a Domme. At first I was very unsure, but I soon started to get into it and take control. Every day I grew more and more as a Domme, realizing that I myself am a switch. I am a Domme who has a few sub tendencies. I only got to see this man once a month or sometimes once every two months; but he sent me to a great website for the D/s lifestyle and soon started looking for someone. I got tons of emails from lots of crazies...... but finally this one stumbled into my inbox:

Hello Ma'am,
I know you have a sub, but would you condsider a footboy / whipping boy / house slave with no strings attached? You are beautiful and I would love to be your footboy and slave. could we at least speak?

We talked for a while online, and I eventually decided that this was someone I wanted to meet. They had so much more experience in the lifestyle than I did. I had never had a foot slave, and wasn't sure if this is what I wanted. In the vanilla world, this man would have not been my type, but something pulled me to him.

So we met one day for some light foot worship, it was nothing like I thought it would be. It was better, it was erotic, it was sensual, it was different. I had scenes with subs but never with a slave. He was so afraid to look at me, his last mistress would have beaten him for such a thing. When the foot worship was over, I gave him a hug, not sure what to do and gave him a quick kiss, something else his previous owner would have beaten him for.

We met again, just for a bit a few nights later and drove around in his car and just talked. I needed to get to know him. To me being in the D/s lifestyle is about trust and you have to get to know the person you are going to be playing with. The more we talked the more I wanted to be with him, the more I wanted him as my slave, and as my friend.

Things quickly progressed and our relationship changed, our play time quickly changed. Some people in the lifestyle would scoff saying that he is Topping from the Bottom, but I don't care. It takes some time to get to know what each other likes, and sometimes that is the best way to figure that out. Before I knew it we were having vanilla dates as well as our D/s scenes. We were both quickly falling in love. We are in love with each other. So this blog is dedicated to all of the feelings and the things that are happening in my life that sometime are confusing, sometimes amazing, and sometimes strange.


As I write this, I have to laugh about the whole "no strings attached footslave". I had no idea this would ever happen like it has.